My wellness journey
Many of you know me from Facebook and either follow me or have friended me. We might have met in person, or at one of the many conferences I attend. Many of you have asked how I got into blogging, and I have to say it was a healing tool for me. I own many blogs on a variety of subjects. I got hooked on writing and sharing stories and my personal perspective on life. So today I am sharing my life in hopes that it will inspire you to make a change. After you read this post, Could you do me a massive favour. Read the bottom of this article and post on Facebook to show that you took the time (which I appreciate) to read this.
I was born in Canada, and I married an Englishman over 40 years ago. We got married and lived in England where we had our first born Andrew who made it into the history books as the largest baby born at that hospital We have lived in a variety of towns and cities both in England, Canada and a short stay in the USA. We proudly live in Canada now. We were blessed with 3 children. Andrew, Katherine and Jamie. I started blogging about 7 or 8 years ago as a way of dealing with grief and depression. I love meeting new people and fortunate to have met so many over the last 6 years, in the USA and in Australia. This is my story that I would like to share.
While pregnant with my third child Jamie, I started feeling some numbness in my face and arms, fatigue and pain. The doctor told me to go for a test 3 months after he was born as pregnancy can cause these symptoms. I remember the final visit to my family doctor when he said:
You have Multiple Sclerosis
My future did not look good, but my Doctor gave me the best piece of advice. Live a normal life, this is NOT a death sentence. Which I tried to do, but it was always in the back of my head. What if I got worse? How could I be a good mother to my children, and what about my husband and our relationship? Then the worst happened. I woke up one morning to a sick baby. Jamie was running a high fever. We rushed to the doctor and the doctor gave us the worst news. He said he had Haemophilus Influenza. (Meningitis) We rushed him to hospital, but we lost him the next day. He was only 18 months old. It ripped our hearts out and broke us up in a million pieces. We could not have made it through that time without some amazing people. Imagine waking up one morning and some one you loved was gone, FOREVER. Leaving a massive hole in your heart. He was an amazing baby, and nothing could have prepared us for that day. Not a day goes by that I do not think of what he would be doing today. Losing a child leaves you in a BIG BLACK HOLE. Besides the feeling of loss, I felt a failure as a Mother. Mothers are supposed to be the Mamma Bears, to always be there to protect them. But this was out of my hands. If he was younger he could have been vaccinated against it.
Then on October 4, 2003 we got that phone call no parent wants to hear. Our eldest son had passed away. It is hard for me to use the other word. I feel that a person passes away, not really gone but in another place. Andy was only 25 years old. He had his whole life in front of him. He had just graduated from a Tool and Die Maker program to follow in the footsteps of his father. How can you even describe the feeling of losing TWO children. So much happened after that, and it hit me heavy. We lived through legal battles and emotional trauma.
Then one year later, my Dad told me he was not well. I took him to the hospital where they advised us that he had Prostate Cancer in the advanced stages. For the next 4 months I visited him several times a day. I saw him quickly decline and he passed away. #Cancer is evil!! To lose a loved one to Cancer is heartbreaking. We need to find a cure.
Then in 2008 I met a man who changed my way of thinking about Health and Wellness. I was in a bad place, mentally and physically when I met him at a Business breakfast meeting. I already knew that life is short and I decided that I wanted a better quality of life but I had no idea where to start. I decided to start the same Health program that he was using as it seemed to match what I was looking for. Something for my health and something to lose weight. This man was truly in the right place at the right time. I did very well, started getting my energy back, lost weight and wanted my Mother to try it, but I had to see if she would use it. Then LIFE hit me with ANOTHER fast ball.
I lost my amazing Mother Irene that same year due to heart failure. She had the biggest heart, so charitable, and taught me so much. We were very poor growing up, but my Mother always made sure we had a good birthday. She always put her kids first and it was not always easy. My first home was a single bedroom house with an outhouse, with 5 brothers and sisters. My Mother worked hard all her life and she did not get to enjoy her retirement years due to hip and knee replacements and constant health issues. Life is not fair!! After my Mother passed away, I went into another spiral. I put my health on hold and my health and wellness journey too. The Black dog came to visit again. If you do not know what that is, click on the link. Its Depression. When life keeps throwing fast balls at you, how do get out of the grief stage of losing so many loved ones and figure out WHY your here??
Plant a new seed
It was time to plant a new seed. The Black Dog was not serving me. I had to find my happy place. I had to go back many years ago, to a time I was really proud of myself. I never finished high school, but when my kids were in high school I decided to go back and took Adult Education and got my diploma. That was HUGE for me. Oh man it was hard. Especially Math. But I found a friend at AE who was amazing at Math and she asked me to help her with English which was my best subject. It was then I realized that nothing came easy, and when you need help you just have to ask for it and you can succeed if you try hard enough. I realized that I had read tons of self help books, listened to Success dvd’s, attended the most amazing conferences but was not putting ANYTHING into practice. I travelled to Australia for a business event and met amazing people with success stories that blew me away. I built more blogs and connected with other people who wanted to get healthy and lose weight just like me. But then last year we saw a building for sale and decided to do something different. We bought the building and turned it into a British Pub. My daughter and I worked there every day and with a great team, built a successful business. I loved it. Working with the public, being part of the local community, greeting the regulars and reading the amazing reviews we got. But I was not eating properly, not getting enough sleep and it took its toll. M.S. had reared its ugly head again in the form of pure exhaustion and fatigue. We decided that my health was more important. We put the pub up for sale. At first I thought of this venture as a Failure. It was another grieving period for me, but I realized I was looking at it the wrong way. We took a building, added amazing British decor, promoted it, hired amazing people, put together a great menu with some of our own recipes and took in a quarter of a million dollars in less than a year!!! We were total amateurs, and this is what we achieved. I changed my thought process. I have what it takes, but it was not good for my health. I was starting to plant a new seed. I knew what I needed to do
My Health and Wellness journey
This is a photo of me many years ago. This man helped me more than you will ever know, and guess what?? I heard he was going to be talking at our Health and Wellness convention. I booked my flight and hotel immediately His books truly did inspire me, and helped me heal. His book the Success Principles is AMAZING. There were no seats at the front of the convention centre when I arrived, so I sat on the floor and took photos and tons of notes. People must have thought I was nuts. What an amazing presence he has, I was blown away!!! And here I was, in San Diego and meeting this man in person. I went outside after his talk for a coffee at Starbucks (my favourite home office) and was feeling disappointed that I never got to talk to him personally. To tell him how much he had helped me. Then I saw the doors open beside me and out he came with one of his assistants. In his talk that day he said “Never be afraid to ask” so I ran up to him and asked for his photo. He smiled and handed my camera to an assistant. Thank you Jack Canfield..you made my day. I will treasure this forever.
My Wellness journey Goal
Have you got this far? I am sharing my story because I know others have had similar experiences. I want them to know there is hope and that you are here for a reason. I am still taking courses to better myself, but my real dream is to help others. I want to be the best that I can possibly be. Not perfect, but in a place to be proud of who I am and what I can contribute to this world. I am working hard on my health and weight loss (always a work in progress) but miles ahead of the couch potatoes. I have shared my personal experiences for one reason only. For you to know me better, but also to find out how I could help you. Do you struggle with your health, your weight, your WHY? Let’s start with a conversation. We may have a lot in common. We could do this together. Never stop dreaming. Failure is a fact of life. I want to help you build your success story.
So, this is where I ask you a favour. Can you go back to my Facebook wall and choose a comment.
If you are in the same Health Business as me just write “I believe” (you are in the right company and share the vision)
If you can relate to my life story simple say “Thanks for sharing”
If you want me to help you, write “Let’s talk”
Or just post a response so that I know you took the time out of your day to read my life story.